An attitude helpful to yourself

It’s easy to get confused, to over-think, to ruminate, to get excited by tv-worthy drama in your head, it’s hard to turn a mind that indulges in maximalist behaviour into minimal behaviour but i think this is the way to go forward, to make things simpler. This is the way to waste the least time, to make clear decisions and sustainable progress, slowly but surely during a period of time where it is easy to excuse yourself if you haven’t exceeded expectations. At the end of the day you will know if you wasted time or not, we are our own worst enemy and the guilt from the easy comparison to the better lives of others can strike you down so build something to give yourslef the courage. Have an attitude that might be counterintuitive to your habits but that is not allowing you to overindulge in negativity and self-victimisation. And I’m not saying that you should feel lucky because other people have it worse; that usually doesn’t work: we live and assess life through our own perspectives, we are subjective by nature. What I’m saying is to take it easy on yourself. External factors will always be harsh when you are striving for something so the internal environment needs to be hospitable, it needs to understand you and allow you to recover, getting ready for the next grind. It needs to be a calm, collected and composed strategy centre, do not bring war back home; home is for relaxing, it’s for re-grouping, it’s for being vulnerable and understood. Do not confuse drive and ambition with self-cannibalisation and self-beating. So develop habits that help you to continue improving, to continue reaching, to realise your dreams: an expression our cynical adult selves have titled as ‘cheesy’, but why do we do anything really? Is it to just survive? No, we do need some mystery, we do like the unknown, we do like to look at the horizon and imagine the what ifs! Help yourself to keep some warmth inside, to keep some magic along with the crucial no non-sense discipline. It’s a long, tough ride and we can use all the help we can get.